“Necessary Capital” for the Sandwich Generation Couples.

Jun 09 2009

Posted by admin as Home & Family

According to Prof. Dr. Jeannette, there is “necessary capital” required to avoid the conflicts still remain as follow:

Communicate
Living with extended family, then the communication between generations should be as good as possible. Everything that is propping feelings should be discussed. Also, it is good being a good listener. The husband should take as a leader to begin a discussion and find the best solution together.

Adjustment
Parties living abroad should know themselves and adjust to the residents and the environment. For example, couples who stay at home parent-in-law, then the couples have to adjust. Conversely, if parents who stay at home kids, the parents have to adjust.

Agreement
Couples must establish good teamwork and have a deal. If at early marriage the couples have agreed to live with their parents, then all risks must be lived with. Couples should agree and know each other and understand each requirement, including in matters of maid or babysitter.

Generosity
It took a big heart for all generations to live side by side with the tender in one roof. For those who ride, should not be applied casually itself, because its position is only a ride, not the owner of the house. For the owner should not be disinterested.

Difference = Asset
What makes the sandwich special? The answer is, of course, different contents of bread in each layer. Similarly, a large family, every individual has a different character. Therefore, the difference should not be contradictory reasons. That difference is assets that enrich life.

Solve the Problems Immediately
Minus of living with their parents, turn conflict with spouse, parents will know about it. It can be different, if you and your partner stay home alone. Nevertheless, the conflict must be resolved as soon as possible. When things are no longer heated, discuss the problem with cool heads and rational until completely finished.

Pay attention
Although much time and energy consumed for parents and children, it does not mean you and your partner consider themselves forgotten and marriage. The couples probably enjoy the time alone with going outside the home, either eat in restaurants, movies, or meet friends.